Ah, the up's and down's of life. I continue to accumulate evidence that disappointment is an inescapable part of a life well-lived. And that's the idea, isn't it? I'm someone who likes to say things like, "If you're gonna go, go!" and, the more sophisticated quote, "One cannot discover new seas without consenting to lose sight of the shore." If you're really going for it, really trying to grow into your destiny, and not just "phoning it in," disappointment is part of the cost of doing business.
In that wonderful 1989 movie, Say Anything, Lloyd Dobler pursues the brainy but very attractive Diane Court. His friends warn him that she is out of his league and that he is likely to get hurt. To their warnings, he exclaims, "I want to get hurt!" That's the spirit, Lloyd. Go get 'em.